If you’re having sex, why not making it amazing? Once you know your partners sex language and they know yours your sex life will grow and keep growing, says Douglas Weiss Ph.D..
Most couples think that everyone wants and desires sex the way you do. You project what you like about sex onto your partner. This is usually not successful because most couples have different sex languages.
Once you know your partner’s sex language, you have their code to pleasure. Here, briefly are the 5 types of sex upgrades.
Sex Upgrade #1 Fun
The Fun Sex person’s pleasure is accentuated when you mix fun with sex. This person is going to enjoy spontaneity, various locations and creativity during all phases of sex.
Sex Upgrade #2 Desire
The Desire Sex person’s sexuality is heightened if they feel pursued and wanted. They love you planning their sexual time and encounter. Their pleasure is you really wanting them sexually.
Sex Upgrade #3 Pleasure
If your partner’s sex language is Pleasure, they will want to learn how to please you. They want to experiment as to what gives the most pleasure during a sex act. Their exploring and being explored takes sex to another level for this person.
Sex Upgrade #4 Patience
Slow it down, take your time and a lot of time are some of the mantras of the Patience Sex person. This person enjoys massages and gentleness before, during and after sex.
Sex Upgrade #5 Acceptance/Celebration
The person who enjoys Acceptance/Celebration Sex wants to know you accept and celebrate all of who he or she is. During every phase of sex they want you to appreciate them, not just their body or sexually. Being valued makes sex more satisfying for this person.
Dr. Weiss suggests you huddle up together and learn each other’s sex language. Also, be aware of the sexual roadblocks such as sexual abuse, sex addiction or intimacy anorexia that could be blocking pleasure in your sex life. Then go on and make your sexual agreement and enjoy sex more intelligently than ever before.
Next Steps
To learn more about the five sex upgrades, check out the Upgrade Your Sex Life book or contact us. If you have any questions, we are here to answer them. Feel free to email us at heart2heart@xc.org or give us a call at 719.278.3708.
