Category: Men of Purity


Fighting for Your Sex

Hi, my name is Doug. I’m nineteen. I am a new Christian and a sex addict who never knew his biological father. My mother placed me in foster homes when I was little, though later, when she removed me from the homes to live with her, she gave me a book on sex containing pictures…


How to Quit Porn

The first part to quitting porn is you really have to want to quit. You need to be sick and tired of porn and the sickness that it causes you in order to quit. If you are not committed, you will only be quitting until the next time you look. Deep inside you have to…



From the beginning of my more than twenty years in counseling men who are trying to conquer lust, I have used this tip because it gives men the highest likelihood of becoming lust-free: Make a phone call. This principle has two applications. The first application is to call another guy every day, regardless of how…

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Pray for You

Prayer is a very important weapon to have in your arsenal. Prayer has a way of bringing heaven and the atmosphere of the kingdom of God to you on earth. Daily prayer is important for living a lust-free life. This prayer can be easy: “Jesus, I thank you for dying so I can be lust-free…


Willingness Matters

Lust is an enemy and is on the other team. Lust is 100 percent willing to destroy you, get you to waste your life, cause you to not reach your destiny, or create the consequences of sin in your life. In other words, lust is committed to your complete destruction, and the potential to lust…


A Dirty War Declared

There was a day, not so long ago, when men were sexually pure. There was a day when a man gave his word to forsake all others and he did exactly what he said he would do. He would stay married and faithful to the wife God gave to him to cherish. In that day…


Neurological Conditioning

Most of us are familiar with the story of Pavlov’s dog. You may have learned about classic conditioning in Psych 101. You may remember that Pavlov’s dog was given food after a bell was rung. Over a period of time, the dog connected the bell with the food so much, that when the bell would…



My son plays sports. I’ve realized that sports are a good illustration of life in so many ways. Probably the biggest illustration is that if you continue to practice something, you will get better and better at it. Let’s talk about weight lifting. When you start lifting weights, you choose a light weight. As you…

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Beginning of a Long Journey

I believe we are in the early stages of understanding sex addiction in our culture. In one television studio audience where I was a guest, when asked if they had heard of sex addiction, 25 percent of the people raised their hands. At a speaking engagement in a major university, I asked how many had…

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My Life as an Addiction Counselor

In more than twenty years of counseling, I have found one thing to be true: life can be hard. I know, because I see “difficult” walk through my door every day. I see men who have allowed their lives to spiral out of control, and as they hit rock bottom, they become desperate for help….