I have worked with addicts, of various kinds, for almost thirty years. Addicts effect everyone they are in relationship with. The issue of it they are addicted will come up for the spouse, family members, friends, co workers, etc..
Those who struggle with addictions have some common features regardless of what they are addicted to. Porn, caffeine, alcohol, drugs, food, etc. As you read the below list of characteristics if you check off more than a few you are probably addicted in some way or in relationships with an addict.
- Have they made promises and failed?
- Have they faced harmful consequences for the addiction behavior yet continue?
- Do they show escalated use or practice of the addiction?
- Have their vocations or relationships have suffered?
- Do they show an increased tolerance of the behavior or drug?
- Do they express denial, minimization, rationalization or anger when confronted about the addiction?
- Is their addiction is often a secret?
- Do they spend more time, energy or money on engaging in the addiction?
- Do they experience a sense of withdrawal if they are kept from the addictive behavior?
If you are addicted or in a relationship with an addict I would suggest:
- Get informed about addiction
- Seek out support groups for their specific addiction
- Seek counseling or a therapist from one specialized in treating their specific addiction.
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