Upgrade Your Sex Life


If you’re having sex, why not making it amazing? Once you know your partners sex language and they know yours your sex life will grow and keep growing, says Douglas Weiss Ph.D., author of 5 Sex Languages.

Most couples think that everyone wants and desires sex the way you do. You project what you like about sex onto your partner. This is usually not successful because most couples have different sex languages.

The 5 Sex Languages book is like a pleasure roadmap. Once you know your partner’s sex language, you have their code to pleasure. Here, briefly are the 5 types of sex languages.

Sex Language #1 Fun

The Fun Sex language person’s pleasure is accentuated when you mix fun with sex. This person is going to enjoy spontaneity, various locations and creativity during all phases of sex.

Sex Language #2 Desire

The Desire Sex Language person’s sexuality is heightened if they feel pursued and wanted. They love you planning their sexual time and encounter. Their pleasure is you really wanting them sexually.

Sex Language #3 Pleasure

If your partner’s sex language is Pleasure, they will want to learn how to please you. They want to experiment as to what gives the most pleasure during a sex act. Their exploring and being explored takes sex to another level for this person.

Sex Language #4 Patience

Slow it down, take your time and a lot of time are some of the mantras of the Patience Sex Language person. This person enjoys massages and gentleness before, during and after sex.

Sex Language #5 Acceptance/Celebration

The person who has an Acceptance/Celebration Sex Language wants to know you accept and celebrate all of who he or she is. During every phase of sex they want you to appreciate them, not just their body or sexually. Being valued makes sex more satisfying for this person.

Dr. Weiss suggests you huddle up together and learn each other’s sex language. Also, check out the chapter in the 5 Sex Language book on roadblocks such as sexual abuse, sex addiction or intimacy anorexia that could be blocking pleasure in your sex life. Then go on and make your sexual agreement and enjoy sex more intelligently than ever before.

Next Steps

To learn more about the Five Sex Languages purchase the book.  While you are reading this book, it if any time questions come up we are here to answer any questions. Feel free to email us at heart2heart@xc.org or give us a call at 719.278.3708.





Douglas Weiss, Ph.D. As the Executive Director at Heart to Heart Counseling Center, Dr. Douglas Weiss has been successfully counseling hurting hearts and relationships for more than 20 years.